With or Without You

Says Who: Madonna

2009-10-17T16:49:00.000-04:00

On being satisfied...

"Sometimes I am, sometimes I fail miserably and think I do nothing but wreak havoc and cause chaos. But I'm a human being. I just have to make mistakes, then forgive myself afterward."

Says Who: Oprah

2009-08-18T20:48:00.006-04:00

"When your life is on course with its purpose, you are your most powerful. And you may stumble, but you will not fall.

I know for sure that in every challenging experience there's an opportunity to grow, enhance your life, or learn something invaluable about yourself. Every challenge can make you stronger if you allow it. Strength multiplied = power.

For real."

Lily Allen "22"

2009-07-13T18:28:00.007-04:00

When she was 22 the future looked bright

But she's nearly 30 now and she's out every night
I see that look in her face she's got that look in her eye
She's thinking how did I get here and wondering why

It's sad but it's true how society says
Her life is already over
There's nothing to do and there's nothing to say
Til the man of her dreams comes along picks her up and puts her over his shoulder
It seems so unlikely in this day and age

She's got an alright job but it's not a career
Wherever she thinks about it, it brings her to tears
Cause all she wants is a boyfriend
She gets one-night stands
She's thinking how did I get here
I'm doing all that I can

It's sad but it's true how society says
Her life is already over
There's nothing to do and there's nothing to say
Til the man of her dreams comes along picks her up and puts her over his shoulder
It seems so unlikely in this day and age

It's sad but it's true how society says
Her life is already over
There's nothing to do and there's nothing to say
Til the man of her dreams comes along picks her up and puts her over his shoulder
It seems so unlikely in this day and age

Says Who: Chelsea Handler

2009-06-18T23:02:00.006-04:00

Q. Can bad boys be reformed?

A. Anyone can be reformed, but it's not your job to do it. In my experience, trying to change someone usually results in just the opposite. There are as many good boys as there are bad boys, and usually the good ones have nicer cars and less credit-card debt. I like a guy who has as much or more success than I do. If I wanted someone to take care of, I'd give birth.

-Cosmopolitan

Pussycat Dolls "Hush Hush"

2009-06-09T04:04:00.002-04:00

I never needed you to be strong
I never needed you for pointing out my wrongs
I never needed pain, I never needed strain
My love for you was strong enough, you should have known

I never needed you for judgements
I never needed you to question what I spent
I never asked for help, I take care of myself
I don't know why you think you gotta hold on me

And it's a little late for conversations
There isn't anything for you to say
And my eyes hurt, hands shiver,
So look at me and listen to me
Because

I don't want to stay another minute
I don't want you to say a single word
Hush hush, hush hush
There is no other way, I get the final say because
I don't want to do this any longer
I don't want you, there's nothing left to say
Hush hush, hush hush
I've already spoken, our love is broken
Baby hush hush

I never needed your corrections
On everything from how I act to what I say
I never needed words, I never needed hurt
I never needed you to be there every day

I'm sorry for the way I let go
On everything I wanted when you came along
But I ain't never beatin', broken not defeated
I know next to you is not where I belong

Says Who: Beyonce

2009-04-26T13:44:00.004-04:00

Before he hooked up with wife Beyoncé, hip-hop impresario Jay-Z was famous for boasting on his hit "Girls, Girls, Girls," that he'd had "girls all over the world." And while you'd think that Jay's past might rub his significant other the wrong way, she tells OK! that's not the case.

"I don't really get jealous," Beyoncé explained to OK! at Thursday's Cinema Society screening of her new movie, Obsessed, in NYC. "I try my best to not be that way because I don't really think it's attractive."

But there's trying not to be that way, and then there's succeeding. So how does she manage to keep her envy in check?

"I think I'm pretty good," she told OK! at the party sponsored by Grey Goose vodka. "I think naturally I'm not a jealous person -- I don't think that way."

But if Beyoncé's not hung-up with her man's fidelity, what is she obsessed with? "What is my obsession in life? It's probably working on my legacy, my happiness."

-OK! Magazine

Nicole Richie "Dandelion"

2009-04-22T23:20:00.005-04:00

The song is a couple of years old, but dandelions are picked everyday.

SATC-S1: "Secret Sex"

2009-04-19T11:15:00.002-04:00

Reality check @ 2:17

No heartbreak here....

2009-04-16T23:27:00.003-04:00

" sometimes the person you want the most you are better off without "

Break ups can be tough, but other times you just smile and laugh at the situation and say

" really I was with YOUR ass?!"

Life is definitely full of surprises. You think you know someone but you really don't. Or maybe deep inside of you, you know how the person is but you don't want to admit it. "/

So yeah me and that guy broke up again. I think we are better off this way. Everyday I kept telling him how much I loved him and how *lucky I felt (ha ok) to have him in my life. He said the feeling was mutual but his actions said differently.... When you fall in love with someone you see past all their flaws; you want to believe shit will get better and the person will change their ways....

You can't make anyone change unless they realize they're wrong and they want to better themselves. I'm not saying I'm perfect but at least I knew what I wanted and I was serious about changing my ways to be happy with him

He asked why I was so insecure, hmm the past says it all. And no you shouldn't hold grudges on people but when they keep doing it? C'mon on now.....

Many females out there make their guy their everything and that's not a good look. You must put yourself FIRST before anything. Don't make him your "world" if he isn't in the same page as you...and even if he says u are. Actions speak louder than words......remember that

- ladies,also remember, we fall in love more than once. I look @ this way ....... You fall in love to gain experience for the next one. The guy your in love with right now may be teaching you things that no one else did. But that doesn't mean he's the "one". It may feel like it (trust me) but he may be making your a better person for the next one.... Its like you learn from your mistakes....

Also he might not be the "one" for you right now. If its meant to be he will come back and realize he fcked up. "You never know what u got 'till its gone". Now this is where a lot of us females fall in. We hope he will come back a changed man and say I'm sorry. Guess what? There's a 3% chance that will happen.... Maybe even less.
So don't wait around and stress yourself. Be productive, keep your mind off it and try to be the way you were before you met him. I know its hard,especially if u were with this *fool for a while.

- don't let anyone make a fool out of you, you think he's talking to someone else or doing shit behind your back? Chances are HE IS. Its womans intuition that know these things.... TRUST me.

At the same time don't keep bringing shit up because that might push him to talk to another bitch but still that's no excuse for him... if he loves you like he says he does he'll put up with you.

" If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay "

Now my FAV subject... the "next bitch" aka "side bitch" aka the one who wants to be his friend and make him feel good when you guys get into an argument. Telling him he's "too good" for you and all that bitch talk shit. Fuckouttahea, you trying to be wifey but uh ur not going to be. Shit might be all "sweet & dandy". Guess what? If he did it to me he can defff do it to you. Get a fckin clue dumb whore. I swear some of these lame bitches need to be put in their place. If ur man doesn't want to let her go, he's picking you over her! If a man loves you he will be willing to let that snake go, cause come on now @ the end of the day YOU were there for him not HER. Coming out left field n shit smhhh. He'll learn. But chances are it will be too late....

Right now I left someone who thought shit was "okay" , I was always reaching out to him and being nothing but Wifey to him but he fucked up. Now I'm not going to get way into it but those that are close to me know the fckin deal (dead lmao)

Like Jae said " you are hot and you`ll find someone" pshh fck yea. I deserve someone who really appreciates me and sees things the way they're suppose to be and not make dumb ass excuses. Deep inside me I knew I needed someone better for me but I did not want to believe it.... I hope he finds God or something of the sort.....

I feel a lot better that I let everything out, but trust me I won't shed a tear. . . . not even worth it.

I will definitely take this advice and others and be a better person and hope for the best.

Don't ever settle for less ladies... there are PLENTY of other guys out there, you just have to find the right one... and its not the end of the world. Take it one day at a time and you'll be fine. I promise..

Just have to have a positive attitude. Which is what I have right now.

deleted out of my life and I will move on like you were nothing to me just like you treated me. I hope karma gets you, because I know it will, it always does baby ;]

I don`t know why I stuck around hoping shit would change, I gave you more than enough chances... If you can't see you fucked up I feel sorry for you.

Well this post is getting long and yeah I will close this chapter of my life and learn from this experience. Look back and ask "why did I put up with that..."

xoxoxo, Kay

NINA Sky "On Some Bull..."

2009-04-07T22:37:00.001-04:00

"ON SOME BULL..." OFFICIAL VIDEO

1st verse:
Passing me by,
Remember when i used to give you some time,
(and oh i wasted it)
I can't deny, you were important for a very small time
(so insignificant)

And now you're talkin shit,
Like i aint hearin it,
Your boys be tryna holla,
I know your feelin it,
You say it's dead and gone,
But you still play my songs,
I hear you're gettin all emotional

Chorus:
Because i'm on some bullshit
Fuck what you heard
I'm really on some bullshit
Fuck what you heard
You know i'm on some bullshit
Fuck what you heard
I'm really on some bullshit
Fuck what you hea hea heard.
[on some bullshit lyrics on http://www.kovideo.net/ ]

2nd verse:
Had some goodtimes,
I aint gon' lie but they were never at night,
(what were u workin with)
Let all that slide (slide)
Cause after all i thought u were a nice guy,
(really you were a bitch)

And now your talkin shit,
Like i aint hearin it,
Your boys be tryna holla,
I know your feelin it,
You say its dead and gone,
But you still play my songs,
I hear you're gettin all emotional.

Chorus

Rap:
I'm on some new new brand new bullshit, got salaam sayin eho knew you could do this, you could catch me on the you tube with my cool click, i'm about to pick my girls ups in my new whip, so why you all up in my phone, poppin xxxx while i aint home, if you dont see me im gone, i'll be back tomorrow mo mo mo mo morn.
Mo mo mo mo morn.

Chorus out.

Love Your Body

2009-04-06T06:01:00.004-04:00

Love every part of who YOU are no matter what others say.

The Dove Campaign For Real Beauty

SATC: "Sex and the City"

2009-04-05T12:42:00.007-04:00

Keri Hilson "Knock You Down"

2009-04-03T23:01:00.008-04:00

Heh.. not again..

Ohh.. this ain’t supposed to happen to me..

[Kanye West]

Keep rockin, and keep knockin

Whether you Louie Vuitton it up or Reebok-in

You see the hate, that they’re servin on a platter

So what we gon’ have - dessert or disaster?

[Keri Hilson]

I never thought I’d.. be in love like this

When I look at you my mind goes on a trip

Then you came in.. and knocked me on my face

Feels like in I’m a race

but I already won first place

I never thought I’d fall for you as hard as I did

(as hard as I did, yeah)

You got me thinkin bout our life our house and kids (yeah)

Every mornin I look at you and smile

cause boy you came around and you knocked me down.. knocked me down

[Chorus]

Sometimes love comes around

(love comes around love comes around)

and it knocks you down

Just get back up

When it knocks you down

(knocks you down)

Sometimes love comes around

(love comes around)

and it knocks you down

Just get back up

When it knocks you down

(knocks you down)

[Ne-Yo]

I never thought I'd

hear myself say (ooh)

Ya’ll go head

I think I’m gonna kick it wit my girl today (kick it wit my girl today)

I used to be commander and chief

of my pimp ship flyin high (flyin high)

til i met this pretty little missile that shot me out the sky (ohhh shot me out the sky)

Hey, now Im crashing, don’t know how it happened

But I know it feels so damn good

Said if I could back, and make it happen faster

Don’t you know I would baby if I could

Miss independent (ohh, to the fullest), the load never too much

she helpin me pull it

she shot the bullet that ended that life

I swear to u the pimp in me just died tonight,

girl sometimes love

[Chorus]

[Kanye West]

Tell me now can you make it past your caspers

So we can finally fly off into NASA

you was always the cheerleader of my dreams that

seem to only date the head of football teams

and I was the class clown that, always kept you laughin

We, were never meant to be baby we just happen

so please, don’t mess up the trick.. hey young world I’m the new slick rick

they say I move too quick, but we can't let the moment pass us

Let the hourglass pass right into ashes

let the wind blow the ash right before my glasses

So I wrote this love letter right before my classes

How could a goddess ask, someone that’s only average

For advice

OMG, you listen to that bitch?

Whoa it’s me

Baby this is tragic

Cause we had it, we was magic

I was flyin, now I’m crashin

this is bad, real bad, michael jackson

now I’m mad, real mad, joe jackson

you should leave your boyfriend now, Imma ask him

[Keri Hilson]

Say u gotta put the good with the bad, happy and the sad

So will u bring a better future than I had in the past

oh Cause, I don’t wanna make the same mistakes I did

I don’t wanna fall back on my face again

Whoaa, whoaaa

I’ll admit it, I was scared to answer love's call

Whoaa, whoaaa

and if it hits better make it worth the fall

(When it comes around)

[Chorus]

Won’t see it coming when it happens (hey)

but when it happens you’re gonna feel it, let me tell you now

you see when love knocks you down

Won’t see it coming when it happens

but when it happens you’re gonna feel it, let me tell you now

you see when love knocks you down

yeah

Says Who: Katy Perry

2009-04-03T10:55:00.005-04:00

"Does he make you a better person? If not, ditch him... I think women have a lot of need to want to save men, but we just can't."

Oprah's Counsel About Men

2009-04-02T10:49:00.004-04:00

HEAR WHAT OPRAH WINFREY HAD TO SAY ABOUT MEN

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't 'be friends'. A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle.

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think 'it will get better' You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything.* He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior.* Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... Even if he has more education or in a better job.

Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending... Compromise is two way street.

You need time to heal between relationships... There is nothing cute about baggage.... Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... Look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted

Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.* Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful: Dr. Phil

You should know that:

You're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he's not the only one.

They're all watching you, so you have a lot of choices. Make the right one.

Ladies take care of your own hearts....

Share this with other women and men (just so they know)...

You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare

...With or Without You

2009-04-01T20:57:00.006-04:00

I will love myself first

Cry these tears

As much as it hurts

Take the blame for my own faults

Even though

You've played your part

Look myself in the mirror

Address all of my flaws

Make the truth clearer

I'm the one in control

You broke my heart

But not my soul

Just because you let me down

Doesn't mean I can't rise

Just because you said I couldn't

Doesn't mean I wouldn't try

And just because you left

Doesn't mean I wouldn't do right...

... with or without you.

Art by Afrosemary
Words by ms.rea